First the divorce wrecked havoc on myself, my ex, and worst of all my son who didn't deserve this.
Second, many people equate divorce with freedom. Not me, I am still faced with her because of my son. Ask me again in a decade when my son is an adult.
St. Valentine's Day holds some special meaning for me, while planning to celebrate it in some romantic way, my ex (and her perverse sense of timing) announced her decision to end the marriage. No need to discuss anything or work on it for the sake of our innocent son, just do what she thinks would make her "happy".
So how should divorcee's commemorate the day?
As for me, I'll be spending it with my ex. Yee Ha! (sarcasm!) Since my ex insists on supervising my visitation, it looks like I'll be spending time with my son and my tag along ex on Valentine's Day. How many people will be doing that? I don't particularly want to see her any day let alone Valentine's Day. My focus will be on my son.
At another divorce blog I like a lot, someone posted a Valentine's Day cocktail.
Let's see what drink would be appropriate? My usual drink is CC and Ginger. A smooth Canadian Whiskey and a not too sweet mix. 7 & 7 is too sweet.
But for this occasion I think that the better choice would be a "Snake Bite".
2 oz of Yukon Jack over ice with a splash of Rose's Lime juice.
No substitutions - Yukon Jack is a strong (100 proof) Canadian Whiskey with a unique taste (strong bite).
Yukon Jack is the "black sheep of Canadian Whiskeys", "a taste born of hoary (gray or white with or as if with age) nights, when lonely men struggled to keep their fires lit and cabins warm."
Yep that will be my Saturday toast. I checked and I have the ingredients.
If you don't have that, then how about a "Screwdriver" (to celebrate being screwed by your divorce).
2.5 oz vodka
4 oz fresh orange juice
Cheers...
Guess I'll have to stop by here on Sunday and let everyone know how it went.
Feel free to comment here and tell me how you plan to "celebrate" the day or how it went.
Update:
So I had a decent day, despite my ex being there as a tag along and being a pain. Actually I had two days... On Friday I went swimming with my son for a few hours. My visitation is supposed to be four hours on the weekend, usually on Saturday. When I asked her about Saturday (Valentine's Day) she seemed a little curt, less than enthused. I suppose she could have tried to schedule it for Sunday, but she didn't. Maybe in some perverse way she'd rather see that I wasn't with anyone else on that day. I had been dating last year, but am not seeing anyone now.
My son called me a few times on Valentine's Day morning, asking me to bring some things. The court said 4 hours, she said 3, no one tells her what to do, but it turned out to be 6 hours. On the one hand she left us alone a lot to make calls or whatever, on the other hand she had to be her controlling self. She insisted he do some school work. So we did.
We had some fun too. I brought him a bouquet of Tootsie Pops, Valentine's Day cards (from me, my parents, and his cousin), and some brownies with real frosting just like his aunt (my brother's wife) made him a few weeks ago. See my ex only makes "healthy" brownies without frosting (kind of like a hard chocolate cake, yuk). My son is tall and thin, he doesn't need to be on a diet. I could see her getting ready to raise a fuss when I brought out the brownies, but she bit her tongue and let him have it.
He was making some labels and it wasn't working so we figured it out. We had a bit of a disagreement when my son asked me to set up a web site for him. Her protectionism and control kicked in. More on that later in another post. After I got home, my son continued to call me about the web site.
In the evening, I watched some movies, dabbled on the web (for my son), had a couple of snake bites and relaxed.
All in all, a decent day. Could have been better, but these days I have to be (somewhat) happy with what I can get (jqism).
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