Alec Baldwin on the View

Well I missed 20/20, but I TIVOed "ALEC BALDWIN and TALK SHOWS" and got the view. When the program came up, the thumbs down rating showed, but my TIVO program over rode it. Thank God for fast forward, geez, tinkling on toilet seats and jiggling butts for the first 28 minutes. Alec came out and gave the jiggling butt girl money and kissed each woman. So the gals went gaga over Alec, not hostile as I heard Diane Sawyer of 20/20 was.

Alec

They started the chit chat complimenting him on his Emmy. Then they talked about the nasty voicemail that Alec left in frustration for his daughter when he couldn't reach her.

So the meat of the interview started at 35 minute mark.

Alec started talking about PAS. He was careful to not disparage Kim.

He mentioned that he was held to the myth of perfect parenting, situations that wouldn't be of any concern in a normal marriage were exploited as "abuse". He said that PAS makes normal parenting "abusive". If you try to discipline your child by saying "Stop misbehaving or I'll take away video, TV, and cell phone", in a normal marriage, your wife would say "listen to your father", with PAS, its off to court you go as an "abusive" parent.

In the last generation, father's worked and were uninvolved, and mother's parented full time. That's the way they did things. In this generation, especially after a divorce, a father may want to take a more active role in parenting. Alec didn't mention it, but I'd say that as more women entered the workforce, traditional father breadwinner, mother housewife roles changed. Now father's are more active because the mother is no longer a stay at home mom, even while married. Another trend I believe is important, is that the higher divorce rate also contributes to higher father involvement. In the older generation, divorces had a reason, a grounds, so the separation seemed more rigid. Today's "no-fault" divorces seem to make a lot of "involuntarily divorced father's" who really didn't want to leave their children in my opinion and they feel a sense of profound loss in that these outsiders have wrestled the ones they love from them.

Alec advocates for an immediate default of 50/50 parenting unless the Father really doesn't want it. Many court systems give lip service to this, but most still follow the old standard, every other weekend visitation for the newly demoted NCP, former Father, and nearly sole (residential) custody to the mother. If the mother wants to make accusations, then the father's visitation (as mine is) can be limited even further or eliminated all together.

Courts have given lip service to abandoning the "tender years doctrine" which says that only mothers can take care of infants. Aside from breast feeding there wasn't any care my wife gave our son that I didn't, even after working a 14 hour third shift with my 100 mile commute because she was "tired". This was even when my son was sleeping through the nights, so I don't know why my wife was so damn tired, but I'd come home to see her sleeping while my young son was up and wandering the house. Interestingly, Alec took the position that the "tender years doctrine" should be respected because no Father would wrestle away a toddler from his needed maternal connection 50% of the time. Hmmm... Lucky I was around to pick up the slack for my son's tender years. Well my son just turned 9 so that issue has changed. Now, as far as I know, when he wakes up before her, he wanders unsupervised. At least that was the explanation when his reading log showed 45 minutes of morning reading and tardy arrival at school. Yeah that single parenting thing works real good (sarcasm).

Alec stated that there should be an immediate order for co-parenting at the time of filing for divorce. Alec also stated that when PAS arises, then "bang" order therapy to prevent it.

Barbara mentioned that Alec was so distraught by this process that he contemplated suicide and that his book even mentions the ways that he had thought to commit suicide. This agonizing time occurred when the voicemail to his daughter was released. Alec explained that orders were in place, not just a verbal agreement, but orders as a result of a full trial. Alec said at that time Kim violated orders frequently. But enforcement of these orders is "Ala Cart", the victim must pay a lawyer and sue the victimizer to enforce the orders. Alec said the court orders are "not worth the paper they are printed on". I refer to court orders as ass wipe, that's the only useful purpose they could possibly serve.

Alec could have sued Kim over her court order violations, but he didn't. And for his generosity, he was rewarded with the voicemail tape being released to the media. It was then that he realized that this was all about how to abuse him and that he couldn't do anything to reduce the hostility.

Alec didn't blame it all on Kim, "she was in the hands of lawyers" who were hell bent antagonism. Alec said that "Millions were wasted that could have gone to his daughter".

PAS

Its very interesting that the radical feminists oppose PAS because they say it is only to allow abusers to get off. Alec mentions, Father's rights advocates don't want abusers to endanger children, they just don't want women to get away with lying that responsible fathers are abusers when they are not. This is a broad and complex topic I will take up in another post.

Two more Guests

Two more guests joined came out at the 52 minute mark, one was a mother estranged from her child due to PAS, and xx American Coalition of Fathers & Children

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The estranged mother mentioned that her children were turned against her and claimed to be "fearful" of her. Alec echoed that this is the frequent method used, a supposed "fear" of the alienated parent is claimed.

Alec said -- Judges afraid of lawyers, they let them do it. Judges pick a side, can't undo it

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Barbara Walter's asked, "What has this done the children?", and as Alec was going to answer, she promptly told him they were out of time. Too bad, because this is the biggest problem of all, the damage to the children, our next generation. For what? Lazy judges and greedy lawyers?


Status: First Draft - Last Updated 09/29/08 4 am
I will review this program in detail and update this post.

Alec Baldwin's Book

Alec Baldwin wrote a book titled A Promise to Ourselves: A Journey Through Fatherhood and Divorce based on his and three other men's experiences that will be released soon. This post is based on the excerpt released here. In my previous post I was quoting Alec in his ABC interview. Here in this post I am quoting from his book excerpt. Where emphasis is added it is my own, where indented comments appear that too is my response.

Alec's Book

"Because of the scope of the problem this book explores, the issues raised could never be fully articulated through my own case alone. Therefore I have chosen three men to share their own stories and perspectives. All of them have changed their names and the specifics of their identities. One of the subjects is an amalgam of different individuals' stories, including my own."

According to the excerpt the following topics are examined in his book:

• Prenuptial agreements
  
• The decision to file for divorce
• Divorce strategies and assessments for couples
  
• Selecting an attorney. Is word of mouth all its cracked up to be?
• Private mediation versus going to trial.
• Observations on judges, forensic accountants, custody evaluations and evaluators, collateral witnesses, child psychologists and other court appointed therapists.
• An examination of actual custody/ visitation strategies.
• The newly divorced parent's life and the hopeful prayer of constructive co-parenting.
  
• The political influences on current family law. How the political apparatus of lawyers, judges and feminist groups assault fatherhood and impact custody.

Alec mentions that his book covers the range of high to low profile and high to low asset divorces (no doubt because of his three contributors).

Alec's excerpt

I found myself nodding in agreement as I read each paragraph of the first half of the excerpt which discusses his feelings as he beat his head against the stone wall of the system. The second half is his personal story of how they met, married, then things went awry.

Alec describes the intense emotions, the need to vent to anyone who even brings it up, the toll of the intense emotions that finally leave you "spent" and "hollowed out".

This can not be good for a person, their health, their relationships (personal and professional), or their ability to contribute or be productive in society.

He goes on to describe the spent feeling and your thought that you just want to put this behind you.

I had always wondered how this widely spread injustice hasn't resulted in rioting in the streets, and I think Alec has hit on it. The injustice is so traumatic because it involves such basic needs as family, that almost like a post traumatic stress reaction, the victims are unable to fight back. Again, this is just a terrible thing to do to a person, with wide consequences.

"They "wrote off" not only their first marriages, but their children as well. Many went on to remarry. The chance to "make things right" meant starting another family." He went on to say that he could never understand this.

Actually Alec is contradicting himself. He admits that his anguish was so intense he contemplated suicide. I'd have say that is the ultimate "write off".

Before you criticize the people Alec is referring to, consider just how much anguish a person is going through to come to the point of "writing off" those they love or contemplating suicide. Hopefully no one who hasn't been through this can even imagine it.

"The problem lies not only with antagonistic lawyers who perpetuate conflict, but also with the judges who sit idly by and do nothing to rein them in."

Why would anyone in his right mind think the solution to a troubled marriage would be more antagonism? The problem is they have allowed greed to override their mind. The court takes a bad situation and makes it so much worse. But if the judges MANAGED the case and the lawyers tactics the situation could be improved.

Divorce court is as much a solution to a troubled marriage as gas is a solution to a fire. It makes it infinitely worse. (jqism)

"The truth is that we maintain a system in which destroying one's ex-spouse, not effectively resolving conflict, is the order of the day."

The reason for this is a very strong profit motive. This needs to be removed. We can no longer afford to reward bad behavior.

"As all divorce litigants should eventually realize, attacking the other party is not in anyone's interest, especially when children are involved."

How interesting that Alec understands this while Kim abuses it.

"Everyone knows little good ever comes out of our legal system, only varying degrees of bad."

I believe this is true, but I feel even stronger that this is exactly why they are in need of massive changes to bring their actions in line with their forgotten mission.

"I ignored the less than subtle message that tells non-custodial parents, especially fathers, to abandon such hopes and face the realities of this system. Walk away, we're told."

When the system gets too big for its britches it imposes its will on its victims as a demonstration of its power over them, rather than serving its constituents. This is clearly a system out of control, needing to be reeled in and get in touch with its true mission.

"I had a contentious divorce because I wanted a meaningful custody of my daughter."

This is exactly when a contentious divorce does the most damage and not coincidently is the most profitable to the divorce industry.

Status: Rough Draft - Last Updated 09/23/08 3 am

Corrupt, Inefficient, Lazy, Stupid

Enough to drive you to Suicide...

You may recognize these words if you've read or seen Alec Baldwin recently as he is referring to his divorce from Hell.

Welcome to our club Alec... They don't interview us for national TV. I wish I would have seen it but I had a power failure. In most cases celebrities could escape the mundane crap regular Joe's are subjected too. But since the divorce system is driven by the judiciary and greed, they can't escape either.

Alec's Quotes

Here are some things Alec said and my response...

"I don't care if the judges and the lawyers die of heart attacks in the process of getting their job done."

Not very likely Alec. These jerks live the good life, better than you. You work long hours on set, they work short hours and adjourn to golf. Their job is to pass out shit and take none, and from their side, they have very low stress.

I pick this quote because its probably a common misconception, so many people probably figure if their was a simple solution we'd see it. Well there is a simple solution, but the resistance will be immense.

• Hold all divorce industry people accountable to new higher ethics standards without loopholes.
• Remove the bar association conflict of interest for judges.
• Citizenry should know about a judge or not vote, if a quorum of informed voters relative to total voters can not be obtained, declare the election null.
• When only one political party is represented, delay the election to the general election so that all voters can decide, rather than letting the party bosses decide. This is a problem that goes beyond the judiciary in this era of two mediocre unresponsive political parties.
• Give the lawyers a taste of their own medicine. When they milk a case, come unprepared, or what ever else, sanction them, then jail them, it won't take long to make major improvements.
• Subject lawyers to consumer protection laws rather than the incestuous union (bar association) they belong to.
  
• Rather than triple billing for errors, require a triple rebate as some consumer laws now dictate by law.
  

Oh but the lawyers won't like this. Too fuckin bad, its for the good of the people, the family structure, the economy, and the innocent child victims. This country was founded by "We the people", not "We the privileged class".

"The judges are like pit bosses in Vegas casinos. Their job is to make sure everybody stays at the table and keeps gambling."

A very interesting analogy, showing the corruption of judges, who aren't interested in solving problems, just keeping lawyers fat and happy so their own bar ratings stay good.

"We all take chances when we get married."

And with this corrupt system where the outcome can ruin your life, one wonders where the future of the institution of marriage that has severed our children well for thousands of years, is headed.

"When I'm with her, I'm happy", said Alec referring to his daughter.

Why is the court so blind to this. A loving parent is happy to be with their child and the child is happy to be with the parent. We were guaranteed the "right to pursue happiness" and the court is constantly interfering. As adults we are more able to cope with this unhappiness, although as an adult we also know that this is inescapable injustice and as such it leads to severe depression. But the innocent child being deprived of access to a loving parent is a serious crime.

And as I advise people, speak up. I did, I let the judge and all the divorce industry representatives present in his chambers, know that the opposition's interference in my custody was child abuse. At that point I was ejected and made to sit in the hall for 10 minutes like a school child caught passing notes. I was called back in where the judge announced that all the guilty parties agreed "No error at law was made". Well la de dah, skip the CYA and call it as it is.

Baldwin Describes 'Parental Alienation Syndrome'

There are groups like NOW that fight fiercely against this in order to maintain the status quo to maintain the upper hand for their members. Interesting that the radical feminist cause trumps the interest of innocent children, even daughters who will grow up to be wounded women by the absence of their Father.

We can only hope Alec makes use of his tremendous wealth to battle the radical and entrenched that are destroying families. This isn't a Father's only issue so it should be resolved for estranged mothers as well.

Corrupt

Today's judiciary is corrupt by design. One of the biggest flaws is management and labor are in the same labor union - the bar association. It is the job of the judge to MANAGE the case, the lawyers and the parties. In a perfect world, a "professional" lawyer would aspire to a set of ethics and conduct and self management. But divorce court will never be confused with "perfect", unless you follow it by "fuckup". When a lawyer is unprepared, opposition counsel can motion for sanctions, they never do. The judge with his almighty god-like power could simply instruct the lawyers or even hold an unprepared lawyer in contempt. That will rarely happen. The judge needs the votes of the bar, the labor union that he is to manage, in order to keep being a judge. Conflict of interest by design.

My judge was well liked by the lawyers. He worked 3 hours per day, and let the lawyers do what ever they wanted, he let them milk the case for all they could get. And when he finally got close to getting in trouble for not managing his case load, he threatened me. How can he threaten me, I vote him in after he gets the bar association backing. But I don't count, because I'm in the minority, he will get re-elected without my vote. Half the people are not there long enough or are not observant enough to catch up to his games. Eighty percent of the voters don't even know who he is and they'll re-elect him because he belongs to an exclusive club, he has brand/name recognition, he belongs to our local political dynasty, guaranteed employment for life unless he really screws up badly.

Inefficient

The divorce court is the most inefficient way of dealing with a troubled marriage. The word doesn't even begin to describe it. Inefficiency is encouraged in the divorce system and goes well with laziness. The use of computers and the method of handling financial issues shows this clearly.

As a computer professional I am truly appalled at their lack of skill. I mention this in a recent post on my Popular Technology Blog. The computer masks their inefficiency with neat laser crisp output, but behind the scenes you see them using yellow pads and long hand math, just as they did in the movie Apollo 13 in 1969, nearly half a century ago. They say the wheels of justice move slow, sometimes I wonder if you can call that moving at all.

If you are lucky they may outsource financial issues, but more likely that will occur only for pension issues that have particular legal issues. Actually you should demand they be separated and sent to a CDFP, a CPA specializing in divorce financial issues. Why? First even this level of CPA is cheaper than any lawyer, second, he knows what he's doing, and third he's not a math moron who could care less like your lawyer is. Oh your finances are simple, lets take this simple problem, 5 components of a house valuation need to add up to the total value of the house. Sound simple for a college graduate? Should be, my 9 year old son can do it. Well that's a sucker bet becuase we're talking about shyster lawyers who don't care. Yes, my lawyer made multiple mistakes of over $10,000 because he left his laptop on his spotless desk with his wonderfully distracting penthouse view. Some scribbling on a yellow pad didn't get transferred to Excel and wha lah, crisp clean computer output with errors.

Another favorite financial tactic favored by math moron lawyers is commingling of disparate funds. This would no doubt make any auditor, CPA, or financially trained person loose their lunch. There is a reason that you can't commingle the values of a house (illiquid), savings (liquid), investments (commissions), pensions (should be, but are not protected, tax consequences). If you want to take your chances that they will err in your favor, consider Vegas, your odds are better, otherwise consider a CDFP.

But that's OK, because my lawyer billed for screwing up, billed for the argument that it took for me to convince him that he really couldn't add 5 numbers and that he and not Excel made the error, and then I had to pay for him to correct it. Where else can you triple your income by being a fuckup? (jqism) Powerful incentive to be inefficient and lazy. Dumb? No I don't think so.

Lazy

There are huge incentives to be lazy. If a judge were to actually manage his cases and the lawyers, they would become bothered and withdraw their valuable bar rating causing him to loose his job. So for the judge to be popular, he lets the lawyers run wild, its easy. The lawyer's don't care about the specifics of your case, they have a worn out cookie cutter they will use, its easy and they still get paid. And sometimes even the divorcing parties are lazy, failing to manage these lawyer consultants on their payroll. Lawyer's make that difficult.

Stupid

Now I have a disagreement here. I'll admit that they act stupid, but I don't believe they are truly stupid. They're stupid like a fox. They pretend to be stupid when it suits their purpose. They appear stupid because they don't give a shit. They get paid no matter what, so they don't care to do things right. A contingency lawyer or corporate lawyer get paid for results, divorce lawyers get paid no matter what.

Don't give a shit

Back in the 60s it was the summer of peace and love, now in the 21st century we live in a time where no one gives a shit about anything. My judge has a cushy job for life, only works 3 hours a day and gets paid over $100,000 a year. He gets paid whether or not he's working, no matter how many lives he ruins by his inattention. He even steals money from kids to pay lawyers. And still he gets paid, after all he is the closet to having God like power on Earth. Why? Because many uninformed voters who could give a shit about who the judges are, vote for the local brand name, members of several political dynasty families. We left the land of royalty two centuries ago because we believed that the people not blood lines should rule. How ironic that we forgot why the hell we came here and are voting for blood lines. God save the queen, why don't we bring her over here to rule, then we wouldn't have to be bothered voting.

Suicide

Alec Baldwin said he prayed his life would end. He seriously contemplated suicide and the only thing that stopped him is his concern for his daughter loosing her father. What anguish. Those of us in it know the feeling. We wrestle with it. We wonder how much more we can take before we explode, before we run to escape the heavy hand of the judiciary gone wild. NCP Father's have one of the highest suicide rates around. I understand it well, and this blog is like the tip of the iceberg, you are seeing maybe 10% of the anguish I have experienced. At over 300 posts, I easily have 3000 more I could write. And even then, these are just words, their is no way to fully describe the terrible feelings that you experience.

It's all about money

No surprise here, the root of the evil in the divorce system is money. Ultimately they are stealing from the children which is truly evil. Even the guardian's who are paid to protect the children's interest are not immune from the greedy feeding frenzy. The system is designed to suck you clean of all your money. And by that I mean all of it. What you have, what you saved, your pension, social security, retirement accounts, even the home you live in.

There is a whole industry of lawyers, social workers, psychological testing, custody evaluators, parenting monitor and classes, every one with their greedy little hands scooping money out of your child's piggy bank like a starving glutton.

If you want a nice visual on this, watch Intolerable Cruelty where George Clooney has nightmares about becoming his boss, a man barely alive but still obsessed with billable hours. I have to warn you, it will either make you laugh or cry, there isn't much in between. If it makes you laugh its because it hits the mark. If it makes you cry its because your judiciary inflicted wounds are still to fresh.

If you have no children, well they're still stealing. If you have no money, they'll find some you didn't know you had. If you are living in a box under a bridge, then they just won't take your case.

Change is avoided

In today's brave new world order of globalization and short term profit motives, we as people are expected to be infitately flexible, innovative, and adaptable, as if we were made of liquid rather than thin flesh and brittle bone. But the justice system is immune to the world around it, creeping at its petty pace, loosing races with snails as it steadfastly avoids change in every aspect of the justice system.

Many people are college educated, nearly everyone is literate. Why does the court require we pay our entire life saving to someone who used to represent the uneducated and illiterate? And they do this despite evidence that shows that a party is in fact representing themselves better than a lawyer. What? Do I blaspheme? Am I arrogant? Nope, I give a shit about the outcome and the lawyers don't. For me this is about my life savings and my own flesh and blood, for them I am just a billing code that is another step toward full partner. That my friends is an advantage that can not be underestimated.

If you want anything done better than half ass, you've got to give a shit. Pun Intended. (jqism)

Here's the routine, your lawyer goes behind closed doors and bullshits with various court employees, flirting with cute ones, socializing, on your dime, while you are expected to sit in the hall like an statue or an asshole quietly staring ahead at the wall symbolizing your respect for the "honorable" court. Day after day, losing work and pay. Forty five days for me. All in the off chance that someone may need you to answer a question, which they rarely do, especially with lax case management. If you protest this old bad habit, you are threatened with contempt and a bench warrant for your arrest, at your work place which will earn you some points with your employer. In this day and age of cell phones etc, is there a reason for this other than "tradition".

Economic Devastation

The economic devastation done to both parents, the children, and the wide ripple effect hitting their creditors as they can't meet their bills, while parasite lawyers feed on their misery is nothing short of legalized thievery.

Family Devastation

An unrepairable marriage is a shame. But the court system takes repairable marriages, ups the antagonism, plays on emotions, lies to obtain cooperation of their clients into this financial and family structure suicide.

Conclusion

So I'm glad ABC News decided to run a story on this underbelly of our government. But will anything move forward? Or will people just shake their heads and be happy that it didn't happen to them, happy not giving a shit?

For all of you in that category, consider this, there for the grace of God go you... You've been lucky, I was too, for quite some time, but when you're luck runs out and you are dragged into court, get ready for the most stomach churning ride of your life. You will be lucky to get out alive, but you won't think so, you won't have a shred of dignity, money, or hope, that will be squeezed out of you like blood from a rock.

And worst of all you will be demoted from Father to NCP. As a Father you take so much for granted, as an NCP, you will need to fight for every inch on the miles of rights you used to have.

BTW, I have "shared" custody in name only. But when I read the 91 pages of divorce decree I had all the restrictions of an NCP and then some. When I noticed this they said well that's so you have a "path to normalcy". So they can milk me for each attempt to remove an NCP limitation for the next decade. A piece of shit by any other name is still a piece of shit, cover it in sugar and you won't be fooled. This call it one thing to make it more palatable is frequently used, just as passing out final decrees that are far from over.


Status: Final Draft - Last Updated 09/22/08 5:50 PM
Post has been split, this post only deals with the Interview Press Release
The next one will deal with the Book Excerpt
And the third will deal with the reaction, as reported by others.

Deadbeat Propaganda

While reading another blogger's post about the "Deadbeat Witchhunt", it got me thinking of what a paradox that is. What makes it a paradox is how inconsistent it is. There are times when the enforcement agency takes action in a month, and there are times when they refuse to take action in a decade. WTF! How could that be?

Well there are two reasons I can think of, one I think is an absolute and one is controversial.

The absolute reason is caring, plain old giving a shit. You see, when they, or you, don't give a shit, I mean really enough to get up, stand up, speak up, or do something about something, well that makes all the difference. This whole deadbeat thing is all about the government AND the people, not giving a shit. And that's the important thing, both don't give a shit. If people gave a shit, they could force the government to act appropriately. But they don't give a shit, not yet, not until it affects them personally, but then it will be too late.

Ask yourself, do you care? If someone uses the word "deadbeat", do you correct them, do you even know how the word is misused? If, not, try clicking here. What will it take to make you care? Maybe a personal experience, with a close friend, or even a new spouse? So lets say it gets personal, you know someone who is labeled a deadbeat. What will happen?

• They get assets seized
• They loose any claim to government money, tax refunds etc.
• They loose their passport and travel privileges. When they travel they will be treated like an 9/11 terrorist. Crack mules have more rights.
  
• They loose their driver's and professional licenses -
  
• Which leads to them loosing their job
• Making it impossible to pay, because loosing your job doesn't affect you still owing support
• Then they will be arrested and thrown in jail
• Where their debt will continue to grow
  

And all this to pay for the mistake of getting married in the first place to a cold hearted bitch who takes advantage of the system. Will all this take years? No, more like months. Will there be due process. HELL NO! You will see our judiciary at its worst.

And you will only have your own apathy and inaction to blame. I'm sure you have your own problems and issues. I'm sure you have plenty of excuses. But when it gets personal and close to you, will any of that matter? No, you will wake up and scream about the injustices to you, but who will listen?

With all the injustice in the world, what can you do? First, don't remain silent. When you hear ignorant people or media say something stupid, correct them. That's not hard at all, if you give a shit. Next, be informed, participate in government. But where will you find time to give a shit, to stay informed? Spend a little less time with reality TV and a little more time with the reality of our government going awry due to the neglect of its citizenry.

Freedom isn't free, it requires the active participation of the citizenry in the operation of the government. (jqism)

The government is apathetic too. The enforcement agency's lay blame on each other through their hierarchy - federal, state, and county. The divorce lawyers actually agree that the enforcement agencies are incompetent and when they complain to the judge, he agrees too. But do any of these government entities do anything about it? Do they have the courage to stand up and do something about it as they are obligated to do by their public salary? Hell NO!!!

And the government's apathy, what of it? Is it just apathy or is it more sinister? The divorce industry and its governmental support has an improper compensation model. Their incompetence is rewarded, they have a negative incentive to do the right thing. Rather than get paid for positive results, they are paid regardless of results, so they take the easy way out because they are not held accountable. Its actually even worse, in many cases they are rewarded for incompetence. We all know lawyers are paid more when they screw up then when they do things correctly, efficiently, and quickly. They are paid for their errors too.

When someone is labeled a deadbeat, federal funding to the support agency is increased, regardless of whether it is true or not. So when you try to defend yourself, you are literally taking money out of their budget, maybe even their own pocket. That's a powerful negative incentive to not correct injustice, federally funded to boot.

But why does this agency not pursue the terrible deadbeat cases we've all heard of. Wouldn't pursuing everyone make them even more money? Well the money supply isn't endless. If they got a real live decade deadbeat to pay up, or even start paying for the second decade what would happen? Well these ignored decade deadbeats serve an important propaganda purpose. They serve to inflate passion, among the legislature, budget decisions, and the general public. By pointing to these worst cases, they can keep the deadbeat lie alive. Just like the lawyers, the enforcement agencies are rewarded for their mistakes.

The agencies would rather hound an honest dad and label him a deadbeat than go after someone who is resistant and dishonest. Why? Its easier! And no one is questioning them, no one is holding them accountable. We live in the computer age, and the enforcement agency has hooks into everything, new employment, tax payments, nearly all government information. But they still don't enforce child support. In fact a mother can even give them all the info they need, address, phone number, job, and they still don't follow up. They just don't want to, and they don't have to either. There is no penalty for letting a decade deadbeat go, there is only the PR reward. The government doesn't have enough money to compensate them for the decade deadbeat and the enforcement agency can get the same money going after an honest dad if he's one day late or if their own records are wrong.

The problem is so bad that real deadbeat victims have given up hope. There was the commenter I responded to recently, and I know two people personally who haven't seen any support money. And they all seem to have this, "well that's the way it is" feeling. Why? It isn't that way for everyone, why for you? Speak up or shut up!

So is my blogger friend correct, will we have "Deadbeat Witchhunt" ?

Its all up to you, will you speak up, will you encourage proper compensation models? Don't look at me; our county commissioners, state and county agency directors, and courts have all seen their fill of me. Show them I'm not some crackpot activist. Prove them wrong, that people do care, and that their jobs depends on them doing the right thing. Don't just register to vote, be informed, and make your voice heard. Take back the government that has always been rightly ours in the first place.

The dynasty took a hit

Somewhere I mentioned that my judge was part of a local political dynasty with a well recognized name. There are over a dozen political officeholders in this county with that famous last name. In fact one woman who had gone by her maiden name professionally actually changed her name to her married name while in the process of divorcing her famously named husband just in time to launch an election. How screwed up is that?

Never underestimate the power of name and brand recognition in this age of sound bytes, when no one has time to hear any more than the 5 seconds the media has decided to push at us repeatedly in surround sound. (jqism)

After our local media exposed the corruption in our Divorce Court, they moved on to other county agencies and guess what, they found more corruption. So media exposure has the State Supreme Court investigating the county Divorce Court, while the FBI and IRS led surprise dawn raids on county officials without involving local law enforcement (they're next, word is the county prosecutor is on borrowed time).

And what else did the media notice... LMAO... Well two of the worst offenders had the same last name, they're brothers, one was my judge.

Well did the public read the paper that day? Did they figure that out for themselves? Has the brand been damaged? One can only hope that the good name is tarnished, that the dynasty crumbles and that people properly associate the word "CORRUPTION" to that name. We will have to wait until November to see.

In the mean time how have these people under investigation reacted to being caught and under the bright light of the media headline story? Have they done the honorable thing and resigned in disgrace, as President Nixon did? Hell no, those morals are of a bygone era. Not only do they remain in office, but they are resisting calls from the local party bosses and even the State Governor calling for their resignation.

And my judge in particular, slippery devil that he is, he ran against a relative unknown in the primary for a different branch of the judiciary and beat them before his name could be fully tarnished. Did the media hold off on their expose? Well in this county our judges are heavily Democratic and no Republican opponents. The Republican party bosses were caught napping, they didn't have a candidate ready to challenge him, so he will run unopposed in November and get his promotion to another branch of the judiciary where he can continue to work his 3 hour days for over $120,000 per year.

Where in the Constitution do we abdicate our control over government to party bosses? What is their purpose? Where does their power originate from?

In the end how big a hit will the dynasty name and brand take? Are we just so tired of hearing about corruption that we've all stuck our heads up our asses and so we don't have to hear it anymore?

I for one, will not conform, I don't care what the polls say, or how big a majority of the public prefers to wear their ass hats, I will call them as I see them, with clear vision, unimpeded by the ass hat style.

Ruining Reputations

A parental rights blog I read regularly mentioned that their namesake was going to be confused with them and their "outspoken" reputation.

As if being "outspoken" is a federal offense. Oh I probably shouldn't say that, maybe it will become one.

There are a lot of people, even in my town, that share my name, only one is related, my father.

I hadn't given it much thought but I've impugned them too, since around the court house I'm known as being a "poor litigant with a poor a attitude relating to the court".

Pointing out that I was there to prove I was a good father not a good "litigant" garnered no understanding. I even stated that I had no desire to be a litigant and did not understand how playing the "litigant" games related to my parenting skills. Unfortunately they assumed my literal question was simply rhetorical.

How arrogant of the court to think that I should treat them as well as I treat my own son who I love. What has the court done to earn my love? NOTHING! In fact, their corruption and ineptitude have earned my contempt.

Some "fun" with the ex...

Two months ago my ex was talking to me about the issues of of some fall out litigation a year after our final decree, how can this be??? She has an interesting personality, she can compartmentalize like Clinton, be in a state of denial, and seem to be in her own virtual world. I was rather agitated by this case and she wanted to cut the conversation short because it only affected me, never mind that her divorce and hired bitch lawyer caused this shit for me. I mentioned the interference of the divorce court and she blurted out that was over a year ago, that's over, well that really pissed me off.

I spent most of my career as a member of the Public Employee Retirement System (PERS) instead of Social Security (SS), but it works the same way. The divorce settlement says she gets a portion of my PERS retirement income starting when I retire until the day I die.

Isn't that wonderful, its proof that Marriage is only Temporary, Only Divorce is until Death Do You Part (jqism). Fucked up isn't it! But true.

I suppose I am a nonconformist, I see things differently, I think for myself and don't need or want media propaganda to tell me what I should think or accept as "normal". The difference between the nonconformists and the general population is we see the truth that others miss (jqism).

Well just two days earlier, over one year after the final decree, she brought over the PERS DOPO (Division of Property Order) for me to sign.

So I said, really, REALLY !! Well then I have a pile of unneeded asswipe on my desk that I no longer need. Since this DOPO contains confidential information I will have to shred it. I walked over to my desk picked up some blank paper and put it in my shredder. She must have been silent for a full minute.

LMAO at the BITCH !!!!

You have to find humor in this tragedy or it will drive you crazy. (jqism)

Never Ending Litigation

Last May 2007, I spent one month full time to finally bring my divorce case to a close in its 3rd year. I did this for several reasons...

• Pressure was on the judge because the case had gone on too long, and that pressure was passed on to me the presumptive loser. No such pressure was put on my ex.
• The judge demanded only my appearance on multiple days to increase the pressure on me.
  
• The judge was clear that he would increase pressure on me, in fact he intimidated, threatened, and extorted me in chambers. More on this in another post.
• This was not lost on opposing counsel who took advantage of the judge's bias to add more last minute demands (to items already heard) in the settlement while not responding to issues that I raised that were not heard.
  
• Much was left undone, to my determent, in fact there is still much undone 15 months later.
• Seeing the judge's bias, I had limited time while he was out of town to have the case heard by his magistrate.
  

But its still not over !! How can that be, I have a final decree? When I'm talking to women I need to explain this carefully so they don't think I'm some married playa creep. LOL...

The answer is simple, the judges lie for their own benefit. Our county divorce judges fall under the control of our State Supreme Court that has guidelines on how a judge should manage his caseload. If cases aren't "disposed of" within these guidelines (one year no children, two years with children) the judge comes under their scrutiny and no one wants to be under someone else's scrutiny. So I have a final decree that says I could legally get married (oh yeah, sign me up for doing that again...). But careful inspection of court documents will show some are missing, and some issues were completely ignored causing other litigation to be filed.

A divorce consists of a group of court orders...

Final decree
Parenting Plan
Division of Property
Pension Issues QDRO and DOPO
Seizure of Assets (for legal fees)
Cancellation of Temporary Orders (contingent upon seizures)
Future Actions to be taken

Depending on local court rules these may be merged or separate orders.

xxx

Status: Rough Draft - Last Updated 09/12/08 5 am

Some Updates

Updates to this blog were a bit infrequent lately as I battled some busybodies who thought it was a good idea to attempt to interfere in my case and release my IRL identity along with those of parties to the case. While this was occurring I was preoccupied with removing that information which violates my privacy, my copyright, and my terms of use as is clearly spelled out in my legal notice.

Now that I have prevailed in that disagreement, I can get back to regular updates of this blog as well as my other blogs. You will notice I added a humor blog which is drawn on from my spamming relative (we all have one), I simply repost the best of what his emails minus chain letters or really lame jokes. Its important to maintain some sense of humor, this crap can drive you nuts if you don't (and I am serious about that).

I am adding more posts to my popular technology blog, lately I have been talking about photo hosting and I will be adding some blogger tips too. My most recent topic is how people really haven't embraced PC technology 25 years after its introduction. This became painfully obvious in seeing just how poorly my own lawyer used a computer.

If I really get ambitious, I will start posting to my Mainframe Adventures Blog. It will be aimed at describing how the top end technology works for the general public. I have at least one fellow mainframer as a regular reader and this won't be written for mainframers, it will be to introduce the fascinating capabilities of this technology to the public.

I have added some new blogger features to the sidebars of my personal blog, JQsLife, and to the humor blog. I will probably post about these features in my Popular Technology Blog.

As a reminder, I use the HTML title feature to give you a hint when you hover over terms that might not be common knowledge. In this post you will see IRL, BIC, and NCP underlined and in a special color, when you click nothing happens, but if you hover over it you will see an explanation. I will write a post in my popular technology blog explaining this technique. You can also click here to see a glossary of terms that are used on this blog.

I don't post a large list of divorce resources, I pick just a few that I find extremely compressive. Today, thanks to one of the blogs I follow I am adding Fathers Rights And Men Ending Discrimination (F.R.A.M.E.D.) to the list of extremely useful sites that I personally read. Each of the sites in my list have their own extensive list and you can no doubt pick your own favorites from their lists.

And just so everyone understands, let me qoute the author:

" FRAMED is not just about Father's, it's also about Children, Mothers, and Families. Right now the majority of Father's are at a disadvantage compared to mothers when it comes to parental rights.......these parental rights need to be equal between both fit Mother's and Father's! For the sake of our Children! "

In the name of BIC the courts decide who the winning parent is, which guarantee's a loss for the child. The court is ass backwards, to meet the best interest of the child, start with the child's interest. The child needs emotional parental support every bit as much as monetary child support. But there is no money for the family destruction (divorce) industry for a simple solution, the simple solution is the child should have equal access to the parents, unhindered by the divorce industry.

Rather than waste time, money, and resources picking a winner (residential) and loser (NCP) parent, the court should simply admonish the parents to cooperate to meet the child's needs and sentence the uncooperative alienating parent to mandatory psychiatric counseling until they comply. (jqism)

Ignorant "deadbeat" attacks

The media article I mention earlier was first jumped on by parent's rights groups who personally experience the devastation of the divorce industry. But it was only a matter of time before bleeding heart ignorants would jump on the bandwagon and weigh in with their uninformed views.

The word "deadbeat" as it applies to child support should be stricken from the language until the divorce industry who are the true deadbeats can get their shit together and make the word mean something. The word is applied to all fathers regardless of whether they are registered with the support agency and regardless of whether they truly owe any child support.

How could that be, it doesn't make sense! Now you are catching on.

You probably assume there is some competence in the divorce industry, that's the first mistake. The enforcement agency makes so many mistakes including simple arithmetic that their entire appeals process focuses only on arithmetic errors and is four months backlogged. WTF??? I shit you not!!!

Do a search on the deadbeat label just to see the screwups they've done to me. That's not even a complete list. Feel free to add your own in comments here.

So I whipped off another editorial reply to the uninformed as follows:

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Bringing people to church to harass them about child support is not the answer for any town... Stop judges from bypassing CSEA (child support enforcement agency), disbar every single judge and divorce lawyer who does not understand and follow CSEA rules (that would be almost all of them). Stop judges from seizing child support funds and reallocating them to legal fees. My judge reallocated $10,000 held by CSEA to lawyer fees then CSEA labeled me a deadbeat for the judge's decision to steal from my child.

My question to this media station is why don't you dare report the real facts, are you too afraid of the political powers in this town? Sure you are, everyone is!

But the real problem with CSEA is all they do is brow beat those who are registered with them. The real deadbeats fly under their radar and they are never bothered for a penny, while CSEA squeezes the last dime out of honest fathers. CSEA is too lazy to track them down. I know of people who haven't seen a dime for a decade, but that's because CSEA won't bother to enforce against someone who simply ignores them, even when they know where they live.

So for those who would comment [to this media report], try some research in what is really going on, rather than trite generalizations. Spend a day at the court house talking to those sitting in the hallway [like assholes] while the judges and lawyers plunder what little they have. The judicial theft from children far exceeds anything that disagreeing parents would cheat them out of, the real deadbeats have jobs in the courthouse. They work 3 hours a day for over $100,000, they charge over $250 / hour to argue endlessly over trivia with the absent judge's blessing.

So save your uninformed opinions and investigate the facts.

Its not a contest

I am sometimes misunderstood. I write about the terrible experiences I have had in Domestic Relations Court, but I am under no delusions that I have had the worst experiences.

Quite the contrary, I know there are many more that have it worse than I, and I have great sympathy for them and hope they will share their advice as I share mine.

But not having the worst story, does not make my story superfluous, its not a contest, its what I know, its what I can write about passionately and answer for personally.

Another issue is gender. I am an NCP father, and much of the problem is directed at father's and I use that as an example many times. But I have learned during this blog that there are indeed many female victims of the system. So I hope everyone can translate what I write to be gender neutral. I understand and fully recognize that female victims exist and their plight is equally bad and unjust.

Someone posted a comment to this post on their terrible experience, rather than simply responding to them by comment, I will post their entire comment here with some of my thoughts.

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Hey, you think you were robbed?

Well yes I do, and I see you were too. The problem is too many people are robbed.

I did not even get child support for my son for 7 years,

Well that's one of the biggest problems, there are fathers going homeless paying child support to a mother who doesn't need it and there are other fathers with more than sufficient means not paying a dime. Kind of like our tax system.

most of which time I was unemployed due to the break down in our economy, loss of my main career (I had been a cop, but my son's father carefully crafted my demise there), and very little experience in any other type of work.

And that's another major problem, the divorce process can cripple someone's career in a variety of ways.

My average income during those 7 years was $15,000/ yr., and I had a second son to support, so I was supporting 3 people on $15K in the SF Bay Area. you do the math.

Well that's not much to live on in the first place and in the SF area that is a much larger problem with its higher cost of living.

The father meanwhile was earning 6 figures as a cop, and another $645,000 in business income from his P.I. business. We were denied our rights to the child support because the judge said I decided to not take it from him anymore????? and had signed away my rights. sorry, but in CA, I had no rights to that money, or the ability to "sign it away".

I have been amazed at the arbitrary nature, callous disregard, and apparent ignorance judges seem to display for the law they are charged with interpreting. When a judge became upset with a point I raised he threatened to arbitrarily double my child support to exceed my mortgage.

Under the Family Code, child support is the child's money and no one can deny that money to the child. It took 7, count them, seven years of litigation to finally re-instate the child support, but the judge denied any retroactive pay, and just ran the support from current day forward, at that point my son was 14!! I had finally re-trained myself in another legal field, as a paralegal, and was making decent money, so our monthly check was rather small.

Judges have an affinity for the status quo. Personally I think it is subconscious arrogance in not wanting to admit that they or another judge or lawyer may have been wrong. The idea of "temporary order" is a misnomer. Any order, once made, is likely to remain in effect no matter how ludicrous or obviously mistaken it may be.

When I finally hit a point where I could no longer work due to my cumulative injuries from being a police officer, I was approved for SSI, a measly check of $610 a month. My child support was reduced by half of what it had been, $1200, and my son got a measly $600 for the next 3 years from a father who never saw him once, and now made over $1,000,000 in personal and business income.

xx

My son should have been getting at least $2000 a month for all the years he was alive, and we got less than 1% of his father's income when state guidelines calls for it to be 25%. I paid for his braces, a $5,200 expense, all on my own, and was never reimbursed the %50 as per the law and our court order. I paid for all his glasses and basically all his medical care on my own. Again, never got the 50% reimbursement.

xx

And now who is paying for his college? Me! We will never see another penny from that father, not a dime, as the child support is cut off effective the day my son my son graduates from high school, June 14th.

xx

You like to bitch, I can see that,

Well if you want to call it that, but as I see it too many people are being too quiet about this bullshit, there should be more bitching, until this problem receives the attention it deserves.

but fathers are not the only ones who get robbed.

As I mention above, I don't always say it, but I do know it. It makes no difference what gender is robbed, it is bad. I just don't like to use dual he/she father/mother language. Sometimes I use gender neutral language like NCP.

Most of your problems are the opposite of mine as I am falsely labeled a deadbeat and you are the victim of a real deadbeat. I have heard some stories like this but can't write about them authoritatively. I encourage those, like yourself, who can to do that.

Our very different examples only go to prove one thing, the whole damn system is screwed up and it needs a major overhaul, no band aid will fix this hemorrhage of injustice (jqism).

Status: First Draft - Response being updated - Last Updated 08/23/08 2:30 AM

Deadbeats go to church to turn themselves in

I saw an article that just raised my ire... I had to comment on it. The article was about allowing child support "deadbeats" to turn themselves in at a church. If you've read this blog for any length of time you will realize that the process of naming "deadbeats" is very flawed. My editorial response follows...

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How ironic that the church, historically a sanctuary for the falsely accused is being used to lure people in for prosecution. And the benefit to the person turning themselves in would be what? They won't be shot on sight, arrested in front of their children or at work? Wow what a great deal!

What a dysfunctional system! I've had judges allow raiding child support accounts twice when lawyers wanted it for their own fees, to the tune of well over $10,000 that judges ordered stolen from my child, and then label me a deadbeat because of the judges' orders, the same judge who works 3 hours a day while earning over $100,000, the same judge who will win a promotion to probate court unopposed because of his famous last name.

And you have the guts to call me a deadbeat? The domestic relations court, the judges who are in bed with the lawyers, the lawyers, the guardians, the custody evaluators who allow themselves to be intimidated against the father's parental rights, the whole damn corrupt system are the real deadbeats. They should be the ones turning themselves in for crimes against the people and against the family structure all in the name of personal greed.

The enforcement agency who can't even tell you how much you owe, who constantly finger points between county and state for their variety of screw-ups, who only take one day to trigger an automatic enforcement action, but over four months to schedule a hearing appeal and then deny you due process with all kinds of restrictions on how you can appeal their erroneous decisions is an agency that lives off the misery of the Non Custodial Parent (NCP) like a parasite, worse than any blood sucking leech.

And to the news media, is this the best you can do in your reporting? Don't you see the travesty, destruction and stink of corruption right under your noses? Are you so blind? Or do you, like the whole dysfunctional family destruction industry, just not give a damn either?

History will judge this era of family destruction very harshly, but then it will be way too late to close Pandora's box, all the destruction will have occurred marring our nation for generations. But I'm sure there is more important crap on the news or the front page, right? No, I don't think there is anything more important than the destruction of the family.

But who the hell am I, I used to be a Dad, I fought for over three years to stay one, but the court picks a winner and a loser, and I am the loser, I am the NCP. But there is one automatic loser, one that occurs in every single court decision, and that is the child, for they are no longer allowed to have two parents, only a "single" parent and a visiting NCP.

For thousands of years everyone knew it took two parents to raise a child, now in the 21st century we are destroying something that worked for millennia. So we can enrich the family court industry on the backs of the citizenry. That is not the government "of the people, by the people, and for the people" our nation was founded on over 200 years ago. The time is long overdue for a revolution to return the control of government to the people where it belongs.

Happy July 4th, 1776

2008 is another story

Don't get me wrong, read this with an open and critical mind. I have always been patriotic, conservative, without any leftist leanings. But most of that was based on the history I learned at school and no personal experience with the government engine.

Now at an older age and a very personally devastating view of the bowels of the judicial system I am very disillusioned with the propaganda taught to me in school. In the spirit of our founding father's I have some constructive criticism of our government gone awry. And that is far more patriotic than those who sit by and watch our country go down the tubes while waving a flag and singing a patriotic song. It takes far more than fluff to stand up for our once great country.

I DO believe our founding father's built a very superior government.
I DON'T believe we are living up to its ideals today.

So what happened? Well do you recall the famous line, "A government of the people, for the people, by the people". A three legged stool with all the legs broke. By the people, what people, our government is by the special interest, to hell with the average Joe because people don't participate. They are too busy with daily bullshit, TV, reality shows and the real reality of our government gone astray never gets noticed. Our fore father's envisioned government as a participatory not a spectator sport. our citizenry has abdicated their very critical responsibility.

Two Party System

Let me be clear from the start, I think our 2 party system is failing us. Today's debate is between dumb and dumber. Both these parties need to be disbanded and replaced by parties that truly serve the people. I don't mean communism or socialism, I mean parties that truly serve the people, not special interests. As Ralph Nader said, in the history of the US, all great movements forward were initiated by a third party and that isn't possible today.

For the sake of argument, lets say you were a staunch Republican. Was Bush the best Republican for the job? There weren't any better Republicans in the entire country? NO!!! Even Jebb Bush governor of Florida would have made a better president. So why did we get the dumber one? Back Room Party Politics, that's why. Deal makers out of the public eye.

Voting

A basic way we participate in our democracy is by voting. But how many people vote? A minority! And how informed are they and by who? There is lots of coverage about the main executives (Mayor, Governor, President), less so on the legislative, and hardly anything on the Judicial Branch.

We have a free press but how open is the main stream press. Kind of like the same crap in surround sound. Who does the tough stuff, the investigation, the exposes. Far less of that and most people look at it with a suspicious eye, they don't want to hear it.

Political Dynasties

Kennedy, Bush, Clinton
Local dynasties... in our town we have several families

One family name beginning in R had the honor of full page coverage twice in the last few months. One was my judge, criticized for working only 3 hours a day and having the worst record the state. The other is my judges brother, the county auditor who has over 90 political connections on various government payrolls. The FBI and IRS recently raided his residence along with another top ranking county commissioner without notifying local law enforcement. Last year we had a judge who went by her maiden name, decide to change to her married name while in the process of divorcing the famous last name. She had a terrible judicial record and almost won but for the heavy publicity on her name change before election stunt.

How did she get (almost) elected? Her famous last name! How must the qualified opponent feel to have almost lost because her name wasn't part of the local dynasty roster? What does that say about the actions of the citizenry? Well it's not good!!!

Qualifications

Political friends
FEMA chief, no experience, screwed up Katrina
Justice department won't prosecute politically motivated issue, demand their resignations.
Congressman who cheat on their wives, solicit homosexual acts in public restrooms, ....

Media Influence

Vote for a winner, not the best candidate. You don't want to throw your vote away.
Who's a winner? Well the media tells you who to vote for.
So if you vote for who the media tells you too, then haven't you thrown your vote away?
Why vote if you are going to not have the courage to vote for the best candidate?

Early predictions with 1% in, why should California or Hawaii even vote, they've been told who will win before their polls close.

Issues

Gay marriage??? What about the divorce crisis and broken families in straight marriage? Should we address that first?

Oil crisis, that thing we experienced over 30 years ago and have not done a damn thing about?

Arguments that climate change is OK???

Outsourcing. Exploiting the third world.
Illegal Aliens.
Terrorism.
Companies moving their address offshore to avoid US taxes.

Class War

Upper class - golden parachutes, lifetime security
Middle class - drowning
Poor - have programs
Lazy, burned out - take advantage of programs, work the system

Special Interest Influence

Billions in lobbying



Moral......

Status: Rough Draft - Last Updated 07/05/08 2:45 AM

The Games (Lies) Lawyers Play

In my previous post, I mention some of the games/lies that lawyers play. Keep in mind that the judge should manage the process, but most take a rather passive role. Only mediating if one lawyer objects.

The other ironic thing is that judges can be very impatient with the citizenry especially if they don't abide by century old dogmatic traditions. Judges demand respect, but they don't seem to mind the patronizing, phony "respect" they get from lawyers who are trying to get away with something.

If I were a judge, I'd run things a lot more stringently, I'd be pretty unpopular with the lawyers and their union, the bar. I'd be accountable to the people not the lawyers. I'd hold the lawyers to a higher standard, they should know better than to game the court. That means I'd be a one termer.

When I caught a lawyer bullshitting the court, wasting time, playing games, I'd hold them in contempt to discourage injustice.

Why should the following behavior by lawyers be acceptable to a judge?

• Lying, exaggerating, drama, or telling "partial" ("un") truths
• Shopping for an ignorant or favorable jurisdiction or judge
  
• Coming late or unprepared to court
• Freezing/Seizing assets for legal fees ahead of existing creditors
• Treating clients as they did two centuries ago when many were not educated to the level that is common today
  

This is all abusive behavior and as a consumer of legal services you have every right to demand better service. Doing it won't make you very popular though.

Status: First Draft

Stealing Candy from a Baby...

...Who would do that, a lawyer that's who!

Well not candy, money, child support to be exact. What is the purpose of child support? If you answered to support the child you are naive. That's what the system says, its BIC of course. BIC is a myth, whenever you here it be suspicious, very suspicious.

First Time

The first example of stealing child support is when the child support enforcement agency (CSEA) intercepted my $15,000 end of year bonus. The reason for seizure was because my employer's payroll schedule was different than the CSEA collection schedule. This is quite common, the result is at any given time you can be up to one month behind. The law requires that any lump sum payment must be approved by CSEA before making payment to the NCP. If, at that moment in time, CSEA believes their is any arrearage, they will seize the entire amount. They claim they don't know how much you owe and usually conduct an audit because their records are so often incorrect.

How can you avoid this? You must enroll in the online CSEA reporting system and then check it regularly, especially before any possible lump sum payments, including IRS tax refunds. To avoid seizure, you will likely need to overpay at least one months child support (a windfall to your ex if you pay high child support as I do). Be aware that arrearages are collected immediately, overages are not refunded until after all your children reach age of majority (without interest of course).

My employer had under withheld about $500, less than one month of child support, so CSEA seized $15,000, or 30 times the short fall. The lawyers argued like vultures for 6 months about who would get this money, both lawyers, the guardian, the custody evaluator, or my ex. Uh what about the kid, oh nobody was speaking up for him.

One of the things that kept this going was the hired bitch's contention that I was lying on my financial disclosures. But she knew that to be false because she subpoenaed records directly from my employer (a large insurance company with legions of lawyers). But I became aware that she had done that, not through mutual discovery as required by the civil rules, but because the corporate lawyers knew me and complained of the hired bitch's harassment (not a good sign, winning negative points with my employer).

The impasse was only solved by me firing my lawyer on the spot, threatening the judge with appeal if he denied my motion to release (again), and me handing the judge the proof of the undocumented subpoenas and asking for the reason they were not filed with the court. But to really brake the impasse, I motioned the judge to admit my employer as a third party defendant (six defendants already, what's one more) and rule on their alleged perjury (what the hired bitch had implied). The judge found it amusing (actually chuckled out loud and smirked) that I had out foxed the hired bitch. To which the judge turned to the red faced hired bitch and asked "Are you prepared to do that at this time?" and her replay was "No your honor, that won't be necessary".

The end result - the lawyers got 2/3 of the CSEA seizure. And since this whole bullshit vulture attack on my son's child support took six months, I was listed as a deadbeat. That's right, CSEA had the money but would not payout child support without instructions from the judge, but called me, rather than the judge, a deadbeat.

Second Time

Now most recently, a creditor who refused to recognize the property division jurisdiction of the County Court - Domestic Relations Division, decided to go to the Civil Division (superior) Court to make their plea for property division outside Divorce Court Jurisdiction. This is a classic technique, shopping for a favorable or ignorant jurisdiction, even a Municipal (City) Court is considered superior to a County Divorce Court. This is why my litigation is in five jurisdictions.

Only the matter of law was ruled upon and my lawyer decided he would not defend me (unbeknown to me until after the fact) because "he didn't know what I wanted him to do". There is an interesting concept here, I took such an active role in my divorce litigation that when this creditor issue came up he was spoiled and continued to expect me to do his job while billing me for my work that he was responsible for. After three years I was exhausted and thought I'd let him do his job for a change. But in his defense he was looking at it strictly "as a matter of law" and not from a practical perspective. Only when I called his office and reported that my legal representation "dropped the ball" and allowed a judgment to occur "without opposition" that was against "explicit instructions of the client to oppose the action" did he put his thinking cap on and started coming up with practical alternatives. I knew he wasn't dumb, he was just lazy and uncaring, as most lawyers are (jqism).

Why did it take this terrible turn of events to get him to do his job, where he is literally on the end of a thin branch ready for malpractice. And this is not a dumb guy by any stretch. The issue is not giving a shit about accomplishing the client's goal, you are just a billing code (jqism).

The creditor received a default judgment due to "no opposition". They were aware of my divorce action and reviewed my divorce decree. In the divorce decree is an order requiring me to maintain two months child support in an escrow account, the details of the financial institution as well as the account number is listed in the order. This was an extra layer of administrative harassment that the hired bitch got into the final decree.

The creditor knew very well what the account was for. They informed the court that they had found assets and were entitled to seize them. They did not inform the court

• How they found the assets (reviewing another court order)
  
• That they deliberately circumvented another jurisdiction
  
• That another court jurisdiction was involved
• That it was a child support escrow account
• That if they prevailed I would be held in contempt in another court jurisdiction

Why? Because the canons of legal conduct do not require them to be honest with the court. Lawyers are not sworn to "tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth", so they are free to tell a "partial truth" (which isn't really truth at all) if it suits their client needs and furthers their cause.

So the judge granted an ex parte motion to seize the child support escrow account (not knowing what it was). I received notice after the fact, I filed for an administrative hearing. I was told, those are a formality and of little practical value. I informed the court administrator of the other court jurisdiction and that the Civil Division was causing me to be in contempt of the Domestic Relations Division's court order (both are part of the same County Common Pleas Court).

So the court administrator picked up his various stamps and approved an administrative hearing to object to the seizure which was in possession of the court. The court on seeing this approval, granted it, journaled it and then a few days later released the seizure to the plaintiff before the hearing to object to the seizure. WTF!!!

So I had my hearing, my lawyer stifled me and warned me to stay back, it was continued because the other party wasn't there to explain why they should be allowed to steal child support money that is court ordered. Why couldn't the court make an ex parte default ruling considering the Plaintiff did not show when duly notified, had withheld pertinent info from the court, and had deliberately tried to circumvent another jurisdiction's ruling and order? The only thing I can see them explaining is why they didn't inform the court of the whole truth. So in the meantime my son doesn't have his support and I am once again, officially a deadbeat by the hand of another.

An aside

Our justice center complex holds three court jurisdictions, plus the central city police station, the county sheriffs, and a major jail in a large downtown campus, one mile away are are two more court jurisdictions. Our FBI office has been moved from our Federal Government Buildings to a new, very secure, unapproachable (on the side of a cliff) location. We also have a local Secret Service branch office and a Federal Reserve Bank.

I am a photo enthusiast and I really wish I could photograph/video the filing clerks, grabbing the legal files from the lawyers, two hole punching them, and then picking from at least a half dozen stamps and stamping the papers with the efficiency and stiff mechanics of a robot. It is almost funny, but sad too. The impersonal assembly line way the judicial branch treats the citizenry and their grievances. I have to see the humor and chuckle a bit so I don't cry.

Universal Theft

Lest we forget the biggest thief of all is when lawyers enter the marriage to rape and pillage the finances that would support the children. The divorce industry and particularly the lawyers are never BIC (jqism).


Status - First Draft - Last Update 05/05/08 6 PM