How do you tell him?

How do you tell a little boy...

There is so much background before this but let me think of the condensed version so I can get some input...

• My wife is dragging out a custody dispute and making it as agonizing as possible on me.
• Some reasons for this are control, over protectiveness, and revenge toward me
• Yeah, my son is in the middle and she hurts him by prolong this, but she's very self centered.
• I want this to end, I just can't accept that I'll see him when she wants to let me see him.
• My son is very much wanting to see me despite her maneuvers and roadblocks
• Because of a managed health concern and her disagreement on activities, she is fighting for supervised visitation.
• The health care issues are monitored by the best doctors and have been under control for 3 years, she wants to have access to HIPPA protected info and review it for herself and second guess the best specialists in the region.
• The activities are ironic, they are very similar to those she allows, or allows others under less supervision or even those done in school. It's only a problem and it is exaggerated and distorted if the activity comes from me.
• In the beginning, my son used to say "Mommy is the boss of both of us" and he lacked self confidence and was afraid of things he hadn't feared before.
• He has come to the point where this is very much improved.

Now I am faced with this difficult situation:

• The current counter proposal has me accepting supervised visitation for 3 months.
• Experts in this area I have contacted said this is a waste of time.
• One of the social working staff has a myspace page (that I'm very tempted to post, I've already discussed it with my lawyer) that shows a party animal just out of college performs this "supervision".
• Personally I have not felt the need for a babysitter for decades and I wouldn't choose a party chick half my age to advise me on how to raise my son.

SO !

• What is my son to think when he sees even a younger women "bossing the both of us"?
• How do I explain the presence of this meddler in our house?
  Daddy needs a baby sitter? Daddy thinks this is a good idea?
• If I had an addiction or abuse problem or something serious than I could and would justify it.

The real answer is, Daddy loves you so much that Mommy can't find any shit pile big enough to scare Daddy away from the son he loves more than anything.

Somehow I think the lawyers, court, guardian would not like that answer much.

So tell me,
how do I sugar coat this turd?

Get creative, my mind is tapped out.

-jq75          aka Daddy